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Practice Feng Shui: Listen to Your Clutter Meter

Friday, May 18th, 2012

A client I visited recently was sighing unhappily at the cluttered state of her bookshelf when she turned to me and said, “I would love to come and see what your house looks like.” She said this after I had shared one of my favorite Feng Shui mantras: Clutter is stuck energy.  She thought because I am a Feng Shui Practitioner that my house would be a perfect model of organization, elemental balance and harmony, and that I kept it clutter-free. I confessed this wasn’t exactly so.

My home has clutter.  I have shelves that need to be cleaned out.  I have a kitchen desk that attracts the mail and a variety of other paper.  I don’t always put the toothpaste back in the drawer. I consider my home to be a work in progress, just like me, and most of the time I’m happy with how it’s running, though I’m aware there is ongoing room for improvement.

I have a certain level of tolerance for a certain amount of clutter — where the needle tends to hover on my internal “clutter meter.” I believe we all have one — and that it lets us know when too much clutter is interfering with our daily lives and keeping us stuck. Personally, I need a bit of clutter around to energize me, to remind me of the things I need to do, to stop me in my tracks and make me look around.  Plus, sometimes I just don’t have time to put things away at a particular moment. So I give myself some leeway. As an example, when new magazines arrive in the mail, I put them on the coffee table for a while, then move them to my bedside table and then to the bookshelf in the bathroom.  I know this violates an organizational guideline I try to follow most of the time, “touch paper one time,” but this method suits my purposes and keeps me happy. Chances are my method is different from yours, but it works for me because I love to read magazines, but not all in one sitting and not only in one place.  (It is certainly different from my husband’s, who would prefer that magazines live out their lives only on the coffee table. The needle on his meter tends to stay at 0.) But I put a limit on the time I let magazines travel around my home. When they’ve been in the house for a month (and new ones have arrived), I go through them one last time to rip out the recipes or page of gardening advice that caught my eye, and I recycle the rest.

Clutter becomes an issue when it’s the only thing you see.  When you walk into your home and are awash in clutter, all that stuck energy weighs you down. And things get lost in clutter — invitations, socks, an overdue library book. Consequently, opportunities also get lost: You might have met someone new and interesting at the event you missed; your feet got cold; you spent money paying library fines instead of on something more fun or useful. Clutter acts like a dam that stops the life force energy Ch’i from flowing freely through your home and through your life.

A de-cluttered space!

Decluttering your home is one of the easiest Feng Shui practices I know of to break the dam of stuck energy.  It can be done without spending any money, unless you need to buy some storage bins.  It can be done in any amount of time (5 minutes is all you need to de-clutter a coffee table!) and over time. To keep the clutter meter needle close to my tolerance level I schedule a de-cluttering date every week. I have found that things tend to slide a bit as the week progresses, so by Thursday my clutter meter registers that it’s time to clear the spaces. This schedule works well for me as it is the end of my work week and I want to free my weekend for fun.  De-cluttering gives me some breathing room to then rearrange things, to look at a room with new eyes, to feel the flow of renewed energy.

So here’s another favorite mantra of mine:  Feng Shui is a practice, which means it’s ongoing, and you get better at it every time you do it.  So pick a space that feels dammed up and enjoy some de-cluttering time. You’re becoming a Feng Shui practitioner!

Feng Shui lessons are everywhere: even on the road!

Sunday, April 1st, 2012

I was driving home from work on one of our first warm days of spring, enjoying the slight breeze and sunshine when I saw the driver in the car ahead of me roll down his window and toss a cigarette butt onto the street. My happy mood suddenly dissolved and I became incensed. I felt as if someone had dumped garbage onto my living room floor. How dare he and why did I feel this way, anyhow?

Feng Shui is all about finding beauty, balance and harmony in the spaces where we work, rest and play. Usually we’re referring to our personal spaces: homes and landscapes, offices and workspaces. Driving home that day I realized that my neighborhood, and the roads in it that I take to go to work, the grocery store, the library, the health club — are part of my larger home — which I  want to be as beautiful, balanced and harmonious as the personal spaces I inhabit. And I know that the philosophy of Feng Shui is at work in this larger home just as it is inside my house: It is alive with energy, everything in it is connected and everything is changing. The space is precious to me; I know it well. I notice if a sign has been knocked over (a snow plow hazard), if my neighbors have new patio furniture, when the buds on the trees that line the path I walk are ready to burst. No wonder I felt as if the driver ahead of me had dumped garbage onto my living room floor; he had!

Cigarette butts in their proper place

Though Feng Shui reminds us not to judge someone else’s personal style or design sense, my first thoughts were in fact very judgmental about the driver in front of me; dumping garbage from one’s car onto the street is just wrong! Putting your garbage where it belongs — in a garbage receptacle — is the only responsible choice. So, I wondered, did my fellow driver think of the street as his personal garbage can? That could be the only explanation. I began to see my reaction as being a difference in perspective. From a Feng Shui standpoint, every street connects us to one another and every street belongs to a neighborhood that is part of each neighbor’s larger home. Dumping garbage on any street anywhere is really like dumping garbage on another resident’s floor. We can extend this perspective even further than our neighborhoods and look at our cities, our states, our countries and, ultimately, our planet.  If we view the world beyond our doors as our larger home, we will act in ways that help to make it more beautiful and harmonious and comfortable to live in. If that driver had considered the street onto which he threw his cigarette butt part of his larger home, he would not have littered the space he shares with others. He would have found a considerate way to dispose of it.  The ashtray in his car, perhaps.

We have an opportunity every day to think of our entire planet as our larger home.  Early spring is an especially precious time to take notice of its beauty and harmony as the plants are waking up and coming back to life. Let’s welcome the season with open arms and carry a trash bag in our cars.

 

What’s the best Feng Shui artwork? Depends on you!

Saturday, February 18th, 2012

In a Feng Shui consultation clients will often be ready to move their furniture around to change out the energy of their spaces.  They may be eager to paint, or change the layout of a room or even its purpose but sometimes they’re surprised when I ask them to tell me about their artwork.   What’s the best Feng Shui artwork?  It depends on you.  What’s on the walls is as important as what is in the room.

Couple kissing

A couple kissing is a great painting for a master bedroom.

Here’s what we know about Feng Shui:  all things are alive with energy, all things are connected and all things are constantly changing.  Your artwork, along with your furnishings and accessories, is connected to you and reflects who you are.  Another way of saying this in Feng Shui lingo is:  environment mirrors consciousness.  Artwork speaks loudly and says a lot about you.   Here are some responses I’ve heard when I’ve asked clients to tell me about a particular piece of art:

  • My mom gave it to me when I was a kid.
  • I put that there because it fits.
  • The colors match my couch.
  • It was there from the last tenant.
  • I don’t know what it’s doing there.
  • I’ve never liked it but I don’t have anything else to put there.
  • The salesperson said it would look good.

Sound familiar?  Most people have art on the wall that the above could be said about!

Your home is your sanctuary.  You get to decide what you live with, what you love and what you want out of life.  Your home and environment can help you reflect out to the world who you are and want to be, not who a family member or a salesperson thinks you are.   Here’s what to do:  select and display art that

  • Makes your heart glad
  • You selected for the space (even if it’s a gift, you don’t have to display it)
  • Reflects who you are and/or want to become
  • Fits the space
  • Holds intention

That piece of art your mom gave you may still make you happy or you may have outgrown it – only you know the answer to that question.  If it no longer serves you, give it away to someone who will appreciate it, or put it in the guest room so it can make her glad when she visits.  It makes sense to place artwork that fits a space but make sure that the piece also fits you! A classic Feng Shui example of artwork not mirroring intention is when a single man or woman, who wants to have a life partner, displays art that showcases one person instead of two. And, be emboldened to put some art away and leave other pieces out; move art around and change it out to suit your nature, the seasons, or simply to be able to see it again.  Sometimes when something has been displayed in the same place for a while we no longer notice it – a recipe for stagnant energy.

Feng Shui reminds us to not only to be conscious of our surroundings but also to connect to them; be healthy, peaceful, balanced and joyful in them.   Does your artwork make you feel that way?

Celebrate a Feng Shui Valentine’s Day all month long!

Monday, February 13th, 2012

Who doesn’t need a little boost in the Love Department?  Practically all of us do and with Feng Shui, it’s easy.  Whether you’re looking for love, nurturing new love, or energizing mature love, you can use Feng Shui to create some energy around your goal.

Feng Shui is based on three important beliefs:  all things are alive with energy, all things are connected and all things are constantly changing.  We take these beliefs and use them in practical ways to create the lives we want.  Hence, we move things around in our physical lives (e.g., artwork, furniture, bikes, lamps that are alive with energy) to impact our emotional lives.   We are connected to our things and our spaces and we can change them around.  When it comes to enhancing love, Feng Shui gives us lots of options.

Two hearts equal love

Here are a just a few ideas:

  • Place things in twos around your home to remind you of your “coupledom” – it can be two candles on a mantelpiece; two vases with flowers on your table, two ceramic figures on a shelf, two chairs by the fireplace, two birdhouses in a tree.  You get my drift here:  the intention is two and the physical space holds two.
  • What if you’re not currently in a relationship?  Do the above anyway – if your intention is being in a relationship.
  • Look around your space and make sure that there is room for two – e.g., two bedside tables in your master bedroom, two stools at the bar, space for two in your closet.  Sometimes clients will tell me that they want to be in a relationship and their home is so packed with stuff there’s no room for another person.
  • Love is supported by the Fire element – use the colors of fire (reds and oranges), the shape of the pyramid, photos of your loved one and animal prints to spice things up.
  • When using the bagua, Feng Shui’s treasure map of your space, you’ll find the Love & Marriage area of your home in the upper right hand corner from your front door.   The Love & Marriage area is also supported by the Earth element – earth-toned colors, the shape of the square or rectangle and things made of earth, such as ceramics.   Two terra cotta birds sitting on a windowsill would work well here and here’s why:  you’d be using animals (Fire element) in a pair (two), made of earth, in an earthy color sitting in a rectangular window (Earth element x 3)!
  • When laying the bagua remember that all areas under the roofline belong inside it, which means for many homes there is an attached garage in one of the bagua areas.   I know what this is like because in my home, the Love & Marriage area is in my attached garage!  In order to enhance this area I keep it very de-cluttered (no stuck energy), and we’ve hung our bicycles and fiery orange kayaks on the wall together.

With Feng Shui, there is always more than one way to change or enhance a space and you can usually use what you have on hand!  It’s simple to try, so boost up your love energy during the month of February and enjoy the good vibes.  Happy Feng Shui Valentine’s Day!

A Feng Shui valentine – a unique gift to give and receive!

Monday, February 6th, 2012

Enhance your romance with a Thriving Spaces Feng Shui Valentine:  a 2-hour Feng Shui consultation with a focus on the love quadrants of your spaces, and a Feng Shui gift in celebration of your special valentine.  This Valentine’s Day 2012 promotion is $125 and includes the 2-hour Feng Shui consultation (a 20% discount) and “romance review” of your space along with a 2012 calendar of Feng Shui tips anda special Feng Shui valentine gift.  Give this to a loved one, or consider giving it to yourself – to boost the romance in your life!  This promotion is good through February 29, 2012; of course, once purchased, the consultation can be scheduled whenever it is convenient for you (there is no expiration date.)

Placing things in twos enhances romance!

Valentine’s Day is just that:  one day to celebrate love but a Thriving Spaces Feng Shui Valentine gift consultation can enhance your romance for a lifetime!  For more information, please contact lwgrillo@thrivingspaces.com.